So today I saw that my ex-sister in law is on facebook. She and my brother had a rocky and somewhat messy divorce. When my mom told me they were getting a divorce and thought I would be upset, my first words were, "It's about time". Not that I want any marriage to break up, but they NEVER got a long. Like EVER. I think they were probably even talking divorce before the ink on the marriage license dried.
Regardless, she is on facebook. And I am surprised by the number of family members that have become her friends. I really don't have anything against, her but I also am loyal to my brother. Which leads me to this...
Marks wife once told me (Mark is my other brother), that when she divorced her ex-husband for cheating on her, his family wrote her off. She LOVED that family and was devistated that they did this to her. I told her I could never do that and she disagreed. She said, "Blood is thicker than water. You will choose your family."
I never thought I would see that day where I would say, "She is right". While I don't have anything against my ex-sister in law, I also had nothing with her, aside from the fact that she was my brothers wife. I didn't marry her. He did.
I have been bugging my brother left and right to get on facebook. Now that I saw her on there, there is no way in hell he will get on there. And I might add, with the amount of family that have "become her friends" on there, if he were to get on there, it could become quite a mess.
I have been stalking my fbook all day. Sort of worrying that she will ask to be my friend. I have nothing against her, but really wish that she would move forward with her life. My loyalty is to my brother. I would do anything for him... again Mark's wife was right. What a sucky position to be in.
What is your spin on this my friends?
Facebook is to reconnect or stay connected with people you care about. Friends.
ReplyDeleteYou aren't obligated to accept a friend request, nor are you obligated to make nicey nicey with your brothers ex. You aren't going out of your way to be nasty to her, so I wouldn't lose any sleep about ignoring her friend request if she sends you one.
Thats my take.
Wow, thank you! I needed to hear JUST THAT!
ReplyDeleteExactly why I'm not on facebook anymore.
ReplyDeleteVirtual "facebook friends" are certainly different that real-life-day-to-day friends. If she sends you a friend request, I think it's quite acceptable if you just ignore it.
But, I'm probably the wrong person to comment because I can't stand anything that has to do with FB.
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Janet! seriously FB is soooo awesome! But I agree totally 100% with what Melanie said. No need to befriend her at all. Enjoy your facebook experience, it's all for you to create what you want.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree, why lose sleep over something so idiotic. I honestly feel that myspace/facebook are both over-rated. People now a days are so concerned with being hip/cool that they can instantly learn how to use myspace or fb but dont take the time to learn about there computer to do the things they have geek squad do at a much greater cost. If you dislike her, so be it, no need to add her as a friend, i am sure she wont send you request, well that is until she reads your blog just to piss you off. Just the other day i had a request from what you used to be a friend, but he messed that up, i simply ignored it and got on with my life, to this day i get on with my life, even though i have the same opinion about someone.
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